We want to be confident.
All people do. Some are naturally gifted, and some are looking naturally confident even when the truth is that they are shaking in their boots.
Some say it is how you carry yourself, other times it is how one projects. However they do it, we still admire people who exude confidence at all times.
What we do not know is they work on it constantly, and just because they carry themselves well does not mean they don’t feel nervous or pressured. This tells us that we can do something about it if we lack confidence in some or all areas of our lives.
Being confident is a good thing. It does not hurt. In fact, it is one of the factors why a person may or may not be hired for a job, for example.
To share with you, here are the secrets of naturally confident people:
They are direct to the point
If there is one thing we should learn from confident people, it is the fact that they don’t waste their time and the time of others. They are direct to the point and would not have it any other way because they know it gets results and clarity among all parties involved.
They say what they mean
The rule they follow is to say what they mean and mean it well. They don’t sugar coat. Not only they are direct to the point when they say something, but it is also clear and leaves no doubt. They don’t worry about hurting the feelings of others because they know that equally confident people will appreciate it as it is the same thing they would do at any given time.
They look you in the eye
This is an act confident people never forget because they are aware that the people they are speaking with deserve their full attention and respect. This way, they easily get their message across, and misunderstanding may be avoided at all times.
They are fair
All is fair in everything, and this is the same principle practiced by confident people. They treat everyone with respect, and they are fair in their dealings regardless of who they are doing it with. Just because they are ahead does not mean they act like everyone else is behind and just because they are behind does not mean others are ahead. It is a matter of perspective, and confident individuals know this.
They say no
Saying no is never a problem for confident people. They know their limits when it comes to making commitments, and they are not the ones to please people. They set boundaries, but they make sure to honor and deliver their commitments.
Confidence can be learned. Let us be confident that we can improve and be better in everything we do. It is a good place to start as any.