Challenge Your Resolve, Not Your Critics

Resolve against critics.

Both may be the reason why you are going to fold. Or both could be the reason why you are going to succeed. Make strengthening your resolve be one of your biggest challenges.

When people talk behind your back or saying nasty things about you, don’t pay attention to them. The natural response would be to lash out, be angry and say equally terrible things. A fair caveat, this is not a good idea because, with utmost certainty, you are going to regret it.

Instead, you should challenge your resolve and prove your critics wrong. Others may doubt what you can do, but you don’t have to. People may say you do not have what it takes, but it doesn’t have to be true.

If they say you are not going to get anywhere, go places. Do something they would not necessarily expect you to do. Go as far as your dreams would take you. Don’t allow anyone to dictate your journey. You are in charge of your destiny.

They told me I'd never get this far. They were right, I got further.

I vividly recall what someone said to me one day when I was trying to enhance my vocabulary by borrowing a copy of my employer’s Reader’s Digest. I stopped attending school then because my parents could not afford to pay my tuition fee. She said that I was acting like a student, as if I would ever be one again.

I remember looking up when I heard what she said and without saying a word, I went back to the foreign words.

Had I listened to her and let her negativity touch me; I wouldn’t have been able to get a degree or improve my word power in the least. Later on, I understood that she was probably bitter because while I knew I had a chance, she may have given up her fight and wanted me along with her.

The point is you can do something about the challenges thrown at you, by having a firm resolve to overcome them but you can never do much else about your critics except to ignore them and show them the exact opposite of what they expect.

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