When is feeling sorry an injustice to yourself?
We are built to say sorry for every little thing we do, unintentionally or otherwise. While apologies are greatly appreciated, sometimes, it is uncalled for. It also shows a weak personality. Why? Because why say sorry when you know you haven’t done anything wrong?
Here are the things you shouldn’t say sorry or feel guilty for, ever.
- Speaking the truth.
By all means, speak the truth. Don’t be sorry for it, but don’t be arrogant about it either. You may hurt some people in the process but the truth is the truth, and there is no easy way around it. We have to remember, however, that most of the time, what hurts people is not what we say but how we say it.
- Being yourself.
The biggest compliment you could ever give yourself is being true to who you are. It is not something to be sorry for, rather, it is something worth celebrating and commending for. You might find yourself wanting to say sorry for acting like yourself or just being yourself. Don’t. Never. If anything, your true friends will appreciate it, and your family will encourage it.
- Being prompt.
This is a good trait, nothing to be ashamed of. Once, I arrived for a coffee date early, and my friend said how ridiculously early I was. I said sorry. Then I realized she should be the one to apologize because she was late. The problem wasn’t my being prompt; it was her being late.
- Being confident.
You carry yourself well, that’s good. Keep doing so. If others get intimidated, don’t worry about it and don’t be sorry for it. However, there’s a huge difference between confidence and plain arrogance. Make sure you do not exude the latter.
- Being a dreamer.
Dream. Dream big. Dreamers are the ones who change the world. For example, I am a dreamer by nature. I never run out of dreams. Sometimes, people think I am too much of a dreamer. That’s alright. I keep dreaming anyway. I wasn’t always like this, though. Before, I was afraid to dream, even the idea of others knowing what I desire in life was dreadful to me. But then I realized there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s my life. My dreams. My hard work. Just because others don’t dream as much as I do (or not at all), doesn’t mean I have to apologize for mine, no matter how ridiculous they are in the eyes of others.
- Being happy.
While it is heartbreaking to see other people sad, it certainly should not get in the way of your happiness. Happiness, after all, comes from within. You deserve to be happy. We all do. The difference is that you have made a decision to be happy and for that, never apologize.
- Living a good life.
Come on; you deserve a good life. You have worked so hard for it. Live it to the fullest as you see fit. This is included in the list because sometimes, I feel guilty about being able to go to a few places or buying what I want and my sister, for example, couldn’t. But when I look back, we have made different choices in life that also led to different outcomes. While I help whenever I can, I also cannot continue holding my life back or apologize for it. So long as we live a good life humbly, of course.
What else do you say sorry and feel guilty for when you know, deep inside, you shouldn’t? Do share it with us in the comments.