Often, it’s you.
Admittedly, sometimes, it’s the others, but then again, it goes back to you because you are in control of how you’d respond to any situation. People blame others just to have a logical excuse. The irony is, it is not even a logical mindset to begin with.
You doubt yourself; you cannot move on from the past (by living in the dark corner of regrets and worst of all, what if’s) and you even let other people take control of your life. Then you wonder, over and over again, why your family and friends, even the neighbor you do not know about, are way, way better off than you are.
When all these things happen, you exist for other people and turn into a mere shadow of yourself. You become your own obstacle, your own biggest hindrance to success. What’s sad about it is that you tend to focus the blame on others for it, when in fact; it is of your own doing. It is your decision to be miserable, to be sad, and to think with undeniable cynicism. You can’t possibly blame anyone for missing your flight because you partied hard the night before and woke up late.
Stop this endless loop of blaming others and self-pity. You are standing on your own way, and most importantly, you must learn how to undo the habits that are causing you to settle for a mediocre kind of life.
Read on below and find out if you are the reason you are at a standstill.
Should you happen to be the one standing in your own way? What are you going to do about? Please let us know in the comment section.
5 Signs You’re Standing In Your Own Way — And How To Get Out of It
[First, who I’m not:] I am not an outlandishly successful person. I’m not a fitness guru, or a billionaire entrepreneur, or a famous actor.
Still, I am someone who has aspirations…Thus, I am also someone who’s done a solid amount of research into finding and synthesizing exactly the kind of data-driven advice that I myself need to hear — and I’ve put those guidelines into practice with some degree of success.
- You dwell on past regrets.
What To Do Instead: The trick, according to researchers, is to harness regret’s functional aspects — a.k.a., learning from your mistakes instead of harping on them.
- You’re constantly comparing yourself to others (and you never feel like you’re doing as well).
What To Do Instead: The best thing we can really do for ourselves is to preemptively limit the time we spend on those platforms.
- You have a tendency to put either too much on your plate — or nothing at all
What To Do Instead: Allocate a certain amount of time to each project, and then set a timer for it.
- You spend more time stressing over decisions than actually making them.
What To Do Instead: …I make “pros and cons” lists all the time for big decisions.
- You let the external dictate the internal.
What To Do Instead: …“Should” sets off all the mental alarms that someone is right about to tell you how to live your own life.
–by Jess Hendel
To read the full article, please go to Bustle.