Comparing yourself to others is short of being destructive.
Nothing good comes out of it. Whether you are an entrepreneur, part of the workforce, a friend, a student, comparing yourself to others does more damage than good. It is also not healthy.
Instead of wanting what others have or wishing to be someone you are not, focus on your strength and strengthen your weaknesses.
While competition is a good motivator, envy is not because you will only end up feeling bitter for being “less” than your peers. Such a backward thinking has no basis and most of all; it is not true.
You only feel and think less of yourself because you think you cannot achieve what others have. So what if your competitor is owns the market? You can do the same. So what if your best friend graduated first? Your time will come. So what if your neighbor already owns a fancy car? You can get one or two soon.
The point is, others may have gotten ahead of you but it does not mean you cannot follow or get ahead on your own.
Before you can get to where others have, you need to stop comparing yourself to others. They are not you, and you are not them. Their success may not be the same as yours and vice versa. Their path may be elsewhere while yours is right in front of you.
If you stop comparing yourself to others, you can focus on the good, which you haven’t been seeing because your jealousy blinded you. You can concentrate on your goals, and you will realize how good you are. You have a chance to discover your skills and further develop your potential.
You can be successful, break barriers, and shatter your limits by accepting who you are, by knowing that others may be better than you, but it will not stop you from doing the best you can. After all, in some aspect, you are better than others, too.
Never compare yourself to others again and when you find out how good it feels to be comfortable with being who you are, great things unravel. Do it. Destruct your insecurity, not your dreams.
See below article from Fast Company, on why comparing yourself to others instead of being who you really are is not a good idea.
How I Learned To Stop Comparing Myself to Others, and Love My Own Ideas
Jealous of a competitor’s Facebook status update? It’s time to step away from the social media, forget about forces you can’t control, and concentrate on only one thing: being the best you realistically can be.
When I first started my digital public relations company, I was lost, confused, scared, and lonely. I think many entrepreneurs—and normal people, too—go through this.
I was vulnerable, but also highly competitive.
It wasn’t until I kept to my own swim lane, which took a lot of work, time, and confidence building, that I was able to succeed. It’s an ongoing crawl.
Remember: You are comparing yourself to perception.
Try to ignore the bragging
Beyond the numbers
There is only one you
Healthy levels of comparison
Comparing yourself to others can be debilitating.
If you let it.
In order to succeed, you have to be the best you. Oscar Wilde was right: “Everyone else is already taken.”
–by Meridith Fineman
To read the full text, please go to Fast Company.