It is amazingly easy to complain.
It becomes an instant relief, or so we think. We hardly realize that not only it drains our power; it also saps the energy of the people around us, making them see how negative we view life and the world.
We are all guilty of this, I for one, do not deny it. When I was in college, I believed that “Life is full of lies, and we don’t know which lie tells the truth.” I coined the phrase; put it on the blackboard and for some reason, it stayed there for days.
I sent it to a friend through SMS and I was taken aback by his reply. He said, “I felt so bad for you, you view the world in a negative light.” I did not look at it that way. I only thought that I was speaking the truth. Admittedly, I felt I was in the dark then, but still, I was attending a private school. Although I had to work hard for it at that time, I failed to realize how fortunate I was.
The point is, when we complain, it’s a waste of time. If we appreciate the littlest of things, there’s an increase in good energy – call it positive vibes if you want. It will also make us happier, and that is something hard to come by if we dwell on the negative and fight against something beyond our control, say, the weather. Try not complaining for a day and see how it changes your outlook on life.
Greatist Editor Locke Hughes did not complain for a month, and though the transformation isn’t world changing, it’s a good start. Eliminating it for life may not be possible, but minimizing it is certainly doable.
Read on below and tell us, how much do you NOT complain?
I Stopped Complaining for One Month. Here’s How It Changed Me
I’ve never been one to “look on the bright side”. I’m a healthy 20-something, living and working in New York City, with an awesome family and a bunch of great friends.
I’d overthought everything and sweat over what could’ve gone better.
In order to break the habit, not only did I need to stop complaining, but I also needed to proactively replace those thoughts with something positive.
On April 1, I promised myself I’d look for the good in any situation I was tempted to complain about. Any time I was going to say or think something negative, I’d stop myself and find a constructive counterpoint to bring up instead.
1. Focus on what you want to attract.
2. Stop beating yourself up.
3. Change your thought process.
Honestly, I was pretty amazed how easily I was able to transform any complaint into a positive. Here are a few examples of how I switched my thought process.
Plus, the more I focused on finding good things, the more I noticed them in action—a stranger helping a mother carry her stroller up the subway, a man giving a homeless man a few dollars. (New Yorkers aren’t so bad, after all.)
Sh*t happens. But believe me, shifting your focus to the good—not the bad—can make it all a little easier to deal with.
–by Locke Hughes
To read the full text, go to Greatist.