It happens, and it is beyond our control.
We get broken. Sometimes, the closest to you are the ones who make an effort to tear you down. Or the person you least expect to hurt you is the one that would break you. No exception. The best of us go through it. Maybe it’s a phase, or maybe it is fate. Or maybe, it is a rite of passage, ironic as it may seem.
When you feel you are broken or torn apart, here are excellent ways to pick up the pieces once more:
Learn to forgive yourself.
This is easier said than done but forgive yourself, you must. If you can handle and manage to forgive the ones who have wronged, broke you and tore you apart, you can handle to forgive yourself. To forgive oneself is to take the first step towards making yourself whole once more. Maybe it was your fault, or maybe it wasn’t. It doesn’t matter anymore because what has happened, happened. The only thing within your control at this point is self-forgiveness.
Forgive the other person.
Hate fuels more hate, and it does not serve anybody any good. This is for you, not for the other person. You have retained your moral compass, and you did not do anything wrong that merits what was done to you, but when you take the high road, the journey to putting back the pieces gets easier, although, truth be told, not necessarily shorter.
Focus on the positive.
Having gone through this experience, we know it is difficult to focus on the positive when what you see, feel and think are all things bleak. But do try. You are still alive, which is the greatest blessing of all. You have witnessed another day, and you have family and friends who love and support you, which brings us to the next tip.
Appreciate the people who care about you.
You are not alone. Whatever you are going through and however you feel, even when you think the world is against you, there are people who would never leave your side. It may be hard to see because a person you care about seemingly the most broke you or tore you to pieces but the love of family and genuine friends cannot be traded for anything. Appreciate them and in the best way you can at this moment, show them they are loved in return.
This is hard to do when the pain is fresh and the wound still bleeding. But do what you can. We all move on in our time and pace, if you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready. But remember that is the goal, and you will get there, no matter how long it takes.
In all these, do not forget to be gentle with yourself. You deserve all the love and care in the world and the love coming from within is the most important of all.