Children are indeed the future.
But before the future arrives, kids have to be taught the value of education, failure and success. In short, while it is their destiny to discover the real meaning of life, at an early age, they have to be guided and taught how to live.
Interestingly, according to psychologists, the influence, and status of parents play a big factor in the success of children. Personally (take not that I don’t have a degree in Psychology—I am only armed with life’s lessons and experience), I would agree with most of the items enumerated, such as having high expectations, encouraging children to develop social skills, asking them to help with household chores, among others.
However, what caught my attention was that parents “should have attained higher education levels.”
Perhaps it is true, and perhaps it isn’t. In my case and from what I have seen so far, it is not always the case. In fact, it is hardly the case. While it can be credited to the upbringing of the children, most often, poverty becomes the reason why children aim to be successful. Why? Because they want to give a better life to their parents, something they never had and something they don’t want to keep having.
Admittedly, parents are the biggest influence whether children will lead a good life or not, and I am a firm believer of that. But once these kids have seen reality, and have understood what life is, they develop tenacity and aim to be better off than their parents. Older ones are wise, but children grow up to be wise, too and sometimes, this is also developed early on.
It’s a great teamwork, parents and children, but there is always one thing that doesn’t die. Parents always want their kids to turn out better than they ever did.
For a complete list of factors that help children become successful, read the article from Business Insider below.
Tell us, do you agree or disagree?
Science says parents of successful kids have these 13 things in common
Good parents want their kids to stay out of trouble, do well in school, and go on to do awesome things as adults.
And while there isn’t a set recipe for raising successful children, psychology research has pointed to a handful of factors that predict success.
Unsurprisingly, much of it comes down to the parents.
Here’s what parents of successful kids have in common:
1. They make their kids do chores.
2. They teach their kids social skills.
3. They have high expectations.
4. They have healthy relationships with each other.
5. They’ve attained higher educational levels.
6. They teach their kids math early on.
7. They develop a relationship with their kids.
8. They’re less stressed.
9. They value effort over avoiding failure.
Where kids think success comes from also predicts their attainment.
A “fixed mindset” assumes that our character, intelligence, and creative ability are static givens that we can’t change in any meaningful way, and success is the affirmation of that inherent intelligence, an assessment of how those givens measure up against an equally fixed standard; striving for success and avoiding failure at all costs become a way of maintaining the sense of being smart or skilled.
A “growth mindset,” on the other hand, thrives on challenge and sees failure not as evidence of un-intelligence but as a heartening springboard for growth and for stretching our existing abilities.
10. The moms work.
11. They have a higher socioeconomic status.
12. They are “authoritative” rather than “authoritarian” or “permissive.”
The ideal is the authoritative. The kid grows up with a respect for authority, but doesn’t feel strangled by it.
13. They teach “grit.”
–by Rachel Gillett and Drake Baer, Tech Insider
To read the full text, please go to Business Insider.